(Disclaimer: This post was an early draft of what I was planning to publish four days ago. However, I had an issue with the site, and it has been down for several days. Thankfully, we are back on line. I decided to leave this post as it is)
One of the central concepts that I am appreciating lately from Abraham-Hicks’ teaching is the idea that I take charge of creating my own experience.
I like to think of it of creating my own weather 🙂
I have gone to town with this idea this year. 2020 has been the perfect opportunity for me to let go of expecting the world and/or others to “feather my nest,” an expression I often hear Abraham talk about it.
In summary, the idea here is that, sure it would be nice if others were always pleasant with us. If they were always generous, and kind, and considerate, and conscientious. Heck, if they gave a you-know-what!
It would all be nice if everyone were always great with us. But you know what? If you rely on that to feel good, you are constantly in jeopardy. Your mood is constantly at the mercy of someone coming along who isn’t nice, who is indifferent or short with you, who doesn’t treat you with the respect and admiration you know your deserve! It takes just one rascal to rain on your parade!
Or you can say to yourself, “If I keep expecting others to make me feel good, I’m setting myself up for disappointment! That feels awful. You know what? I want to take matters into my own hands. In fact, if someone comes along and is indifferent or distracted or even mean or inconsiderate… WHEN this happens, it’s a perfect opportunity for me to say to myself, ‘You know what? I know who I am. I know my own value. And I know that there are a lot of people out there, and they all got their own things going on, and it’s not very realistic for me to expect them all to cater to me, is it? So I’m going to let them be, I’m going to give them the benefit of the doubt! I’m going to focus on how I feel about me. Because I know I am awesome. I know I am worthwhile. I know that I matter.
“Furthermore, I am going to give them the benefit of the doubt. I can afford to do this. I’m sure they didn’t mean anything by it. Maybe we just had a miscommunication. Maybe I can extend the consideration that I was hoping for. Maybe I can be the change! Maybe if I show them consideration and acceptance, maybe next time, they will be nicer. Either way, I feel better when I give up the drama, give up the judgment, give up being right!”
There’s power in claiming unconditionally the ability to create our mood, to direct our focus, to create our own weather so to speak at all times.