Abraham teaches us the futility of looking to others to “shore up our vibration,” as they say, or in other words, to prop us up so we always feel good. When we do that, we inadvertently make other people responsible for our happiness. Abraham calls this a recipe for unhappiness, saying we are “barking up the wrong tree.” They call humans “fickle,” and say “they don’t even understand you anyway!” Instead, they encourage us to look within and follow our own Inner Guidance, and which is how we become creators of our own happiness (the only thing that seems to actually work).
Let’s be clear. They aren’t saying that humans aren’t lovely. We are! They aren’t saying not to love each other, not to care about each other, not to be joyous with each other. What Abraham is advising, as I understand it, is not to make others the source of our happiness. Because, that will sooner or later disappoint us.
I like being reminded of this. My whole life I have experienced the truth of this, usually after I made the mistake of acting as if someone else was responsible for my happiness. It never worked! It always sucked!
I’m getting better at not doing that. To be more accurate, I’m getting quicker at realizing when I imagine someone else is in charge of my happiness. I’m getting quicker at knocking it off.
People are lovely. Obviously, relationships are a big part of the richness of life. Yet I personally recognize the value of being the keeper of my happiness. My happiness starts with me. It is always in my power to reach for my own happiness.
There’s no other way I would have it.