Not Nice Chris Comes Out to Play

I’m reading a book about overcoming “being nice,” and it’s challenging me to re-think some of my own behaviors. So I decided to create a little list of some things I think. Some of these things I would normally keep to myself for fear of looking bad or offending someone.

Not tonight.

A Little About Me:

Behaviors I respect:

  • Reading books
  • Athleticism
  • Standing for what you believe in
  • Creativity
  • Excellence
  • Financial Savvy
  • Honesty
  • Courage
  • Being Great with People
  • Making Friends Easily
  • Good organization skills
  • Making your own weather, following your own vision for your life

Behaviors I don’t respect:

  • Over-use use of drugs or alcohol (I’m not a big fan of either, to be honest, and am generally as square as a completed Rubik’s cube when it comes to such things).
  • Lack of exercise or a sedentary lifestyle
  • Indiscriminate spending or other financially reckless behavior
  • Blaming or in any way being a victim; trash-talking

Behaviors I respect from afar (because I feel under-developed in this area):

  • Good fashion sense

Behaviors that tend to “push my buttons”

  • When people are late
  • When people don’t do what they say they will do
  • When people quit on themselves

Uncomfortable truth: I tend to be very picky about who I spend time with. I probably underestimate people’s trustworthiness.

Uncomfortable truth #2: I can be too sensitive.

Uncomfortable truth #3: I have often hid my disappointment with others.

Things I fear:

  • Being made fun of
  • Haters
  • Looking bad

Topics that tend to make me tune out or want to leave the room:

  • Trump-bashing (or for that matter, most political talk)
  • Bashing rich people (or what I think of as “anti-money” talk)
  • How humans are destroying the world and how awful everything is
  • Anything that smacks of promoting a fearful or insecure view of the world.
  • Much of what passes for “news”
  • (Sigh) stories about the new projects of creative artists I admire*

Topics that tend to fire me up and make me want to join in on the conversation:

  • Investing
  • Inspirational stories
  • TV or shows or movies that people really like (generally on the positive side of things, though there could be exceptions to that)
  • Hearing people talk about their dreams, their hopes, and what they care about
  • Hearing people who are fired up and aligned with joy

I’ve had a weakness for:

  • Not wanting to disappoint people
  • Doubting myself
  • Being way too hard on myself
  • Taking other people’s behaviors personally
  • Withholding how I really feel


*I feel like a shit for admitting this. I don’t like to admit to feeling jealous, resentful, or resigned, but there ya go. [Sigh]

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