I have been studying the Law of Attraction for awhile, especially through the teachings of Abraham. It has convinced me now more than ever how much your focus determines your experience in life.
Law of Attraction states that whatever you focus on expands. This might seem straight-forward, and to some degree it is. Yet here’s the rub: every subject is really two subjects, that which is wanted and that which is unwanted.
For instance, when you mention the topic of money, many people will unwittingly start thinking of the lack of money. For them, it is not the presence of money they are thinking of, but it’s absence (or shortage). As I wrote a few weeks ago,
sometimes it takes using your best finely-tuned sensing abilities to ensure you are focused on the PRESENCE of what you want and not on its ABSENCE… It can be so easy to imagine that we are thinking about something, when in fact, we are focusing on the LACK of it.Day 9: Focusing on What You Want (from July 11, 2022)
When I tell people I am training for a marathon, very often I hear some variation on, “I can’t even run a mile!” Are they thinking about running… or are they thinking about NOT running, or the perceived inability to run? Hmm, I wonder.
If you mention the topic of finding love, many people will actually start thinking about NOT finding love, or their failure at finding love, their disappointments. A few years ago I wrote about the scenario of someone hearing a love song. Their response to hearing it says something about whether they are focused on finding love or lacking it:
So when a love song brings up the topic of love, some people will feel good, while others will feel horrid. Why is this? Is it because the song is trying to cause pain for some people, while making other people happy? Of course not! Rather, it’s about the vibration of the person hearing the song.
Where are they at currently on the topic of love? The person who feels bad when they hear it has an active vibration of what they don’t want. The topic of love songs brings up thoughts of the lack of love. They feel the feelings of not having that which they desire. How do you think this makes them feel? Crappy, to say the least!
But what about the person who is in love? How do they feel when they hear the love song? The song reminds them of their love, they experience the feeling of togetherness, of appreciation, closeness, and love. They feel grand. They are uplifted. In other words, the topic gives them a sense of having that which they desire. Joyous!Day 183: Are You Aligning With What You Say You Want? (from February 2, 2019)
In listening to Abraham-Hicks recordings on Youtube, numerous times I have heard them ask the question, “What are you giving air time to?” In other words, are you focused on the lack of what you want, or its presence? Are you telling a story of why you can’t have what you want, why so-and-so did such-and-such to you and now you are stuck having something you don’t want? Or are you talking about the things that are working out, looking for the positive, aiming to make the best of everything, looking for loopholes and exceptions and reasons for hope?
I realize this is an uncommon subject. Most people aren’t even aware of how these things work, let alone that they are creating their own reality with their focus. Yet I believe that it is true. And it is helping me to be discerning of what I am focused on, to be aware of whether I feel good or have somehow gotten off track.
When we were kids we knew that life was supposed to be fun and feel good. It’s simply a question of getting back in touch with that knowing.