Today I was reminded how if you expect others to be a certain way so you can feel good, it won’t be long before your world is messed up. I encountered someone who was being very unpleasant. At first, I was really annoyed, griping to myself about them ruining my Saturday morning(!). Fortunately I wasn’t committed to that complaint, not really. I went to the gym, and as I was working out on the elliptical, I consciously worked to clear my mind. I became clear that I was letting someone else’s behavior control my mood. Yet I was the one who was carrying the frustration forward.
I was ruining my Saturday morning… or would be, if I kept it up. Did I want that? Not at all. I determined to let it go. Happily, that’s what happened. The day has been hunky dory since.
Thinking about what happened, I experienced my own power to change my mind. I decided to get over being upset. After all, this just leaves me vulnerable to being upset anytime someone else is having a bad day. Obviously I didn’t want that.
I have been working on being “unconditionally focused,” which is an idea I have gotten from Abraham-Hicks. It refers to not letting our conditions determine our focus, our mood, our vibration. Instead, we determine it. Rather than waiting for conditions to be what we want them to be, we reach for the feeling we want. I knew I wanted to feel good. I wanted to enjoy a good day. So as I worked out at the gym, I also worked out my mental muscles of focus, thus getting myself back into alignment.
Now that’s some fine muscles!