Recently I got a vivid insight into what a “Hell Yes” feels like.
A Hell Yes is something that we know is a great idea. It’s a sure winner, something we are completely on board about! There’s no doubt at all. The answer’s obvious, self-evident. The Hell Yes factor is part of my “satisfaction sniff test“: Is it a total match? Is it a no brainer? Does it make us feel alive? and is it a Hell Yes!?
Yesterday I was sitting at the cafe, and I had an inspiration to send a nice note to a friend of mine. The inspiration felt good, right then and there as I was thinking about it, even before acting on it. It felt good in my mind already. It was a satisfying fait accompli, at least on the vibrational realm.
A Hell Yes feels like someone offering you something sweet and delicious to eat. Your taste buds say, “Oh hell yes!” There is no doubt, only ringing enthusiasm.
Anything less than that is not a “Hell Yes.” And if it’s not a Hell Yes… it’s a Hell No!
I really think there are at least two types of Hell Nos. There is the type where, “I’m a Hell No, I will always be a Hell No, I am not interested in that!” Even a more lukewarm response may still be this kind of Hell No. And there is the type where, “A part of me wishes I was a Hell Yes to that. I may someday be a Hell Yes. I have interest in being a Hell Yes. But right now, I’m not a Hell Yes.”
In Summary, there’s:
- Hell Yes!
- Hell No!
- Not Yet a Hell Yes (in other words, Right Now a Hell No)
How does this actually look in our lives?
Let’s take the situation of someone else giving us a suggestion or advice. What is your reaction to their words? If your reaction is, “That sounds great!” that, my friend, is a Hell Yes. If you react with anything other than instant enthusiasm, you are NOT a Hell Yes. If you react with confusion, doubt, worry, or even the slightest uncertainty, you are NOT a Hell Yes, at least not right now. And if you are not a Hell Yes, you are a Hell No. And finally, obviously if you react with instant dread, fear, or a sinking feeling in your stomach… you are definitely a Hell No.
It’s time to call a spade a spade, as they say. If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right. Let’s stop trying to stick those square pegs into round holes. No use in trying to put lipstick on that pig (apparently I’m full of relevant cliches today).
I used to make this a lot more complicated than it actually is. I would get caught trying to please someone else or hoping something was true, instead of accepting the way it really is. Sometimes I convinced myself that I was a Yes, when in fact, I was a Hell No.
The Hell Yes concept has really been clarifying.
And now, I’m a Hell Yes to sniffing out true Hell Yeses.