In the past few years, my life has changed for the better because of embracing the idea of being highly-sensitive. In my last highly-sensitive update over a year ago, I mentioned how it helps me understand past experiences and be nicer to myself. These have continued to be true as I integrate being highly-sensitive fully into who I am.
Here are some other observations:
- All in all, the “highly-sensitive” label is helpful, not limiting. It is not putting me in a box, it is describing the natural limits I never understood I possessed. It gives me permission to put up personal boundaries I always wanted but didn’t know I could ask for.
- Saying “no” is really saying “yes” to myself. In the past year I have repeatedly said no to outings, declining everything from gig offers to family gatherings and tickets to plays. Sometimes this was challenging to do, yet each time I was glad I did. Nowadays I am much better at arranging my life around my values, mood, and energy level. I am also much clearer that staying home during the weekend counts as doing something. It’s called resting, and it’s generally important no matter how normal or calm the week has been.
- I no longer compare myself to people who are not like me. I no longer feel a need to sweat it when I see others who are more resilient than I. For instance, even going to the movie theater (which we went to twice this week!), I am astounded to see the teenagers and young people whose job it is to be out all day continuously interacting with strangers. I certainly have had my highly-social phases, but they generally time out and proved unsustainable. (Admittedly, I would probably also get bored and restless doing a mundane routine like working at a theater).
- I treasure and revel in the activities I’m suited for. Whether it is sitting at my computer (which I am doing right now typing this), reading a book, writing a piece of music, taking a walk, watching a TV show or movie with my wife, or journalling at the cafe, I now fully appreciate and accept the fullness of my life on my terms.
- I feel great appreciation for the work I do. As I wrote two nights ago, I have never been more appreciative of piano teaching. I am grateful for work that fits my gifts, interests, and temperament. The various things that make me unique all shine through in teaching. I consistently love working with my students, which I do not take for granted. It is intensely satisfying to make a difference for others in a way that I love and is sustainable. I have tried many other things that were not so.
- High-sensitivity and Abraham-Hicks teachings work hand in hand. I continue being a big fan of Abraham-Hicks and studying the Law of Attraction. These teachings are amazing, and I draw great insight and clarity from them. The idea of being highly sensitive gives me access to a different sense of empowerment, which I also treasure.